article by Jessica Renstrom

Dating can look different at every stage of life, but some advice stands the test of time. These tips can help you feel more comfortable putting yourself out there at any age:

1. Follow Your Own Timeline

One of the most important lessons in dating is that there is no single “right” way to do it. Dora Steiner, a college junior at MSU–Bozeman, highlights how modern “hook-up” culture can make it difficult to form meaningful relationships:

“Finding someone to have a meaningful relationship with in college is difficult because hookup culture is so common.… With this culture being so popular, it can put a lot of pressure on girls to conform to what is considered ‘normal,’ when that’s not what they’re comfortable with or want to be doing. My biggest piece of advice regarding relationships in college would be to follow your own timeline and not feel the need to follow what might be considered ‘normal’ for college students.”

No matter your age, dating should align with your personal values and comfort level, rather than outside expectations.

2. Be Honest About Your Intentions

Honesty sets a strong foundation for any healthy relationship, especially when established from the beginning. Research on dating among people in their 20s and 30s shows that many relationships today exist in a gray area, often described as “just talking.” While this arrangement may work for some couples, this set-up can lead to confusion or mismatched expectations, especially when it’s not discussed. Being upfront about what you’re looking for (whether that’s casual, serious, or somewhere in between) helps build trust and save time for both parties.

3. Communicate Clearly & Consistently

Along with honesty comes communication. Studies on modern dating emphasize that unclear communication often leads to frustration and dissatisfaction. Checking in about expectations, boundaries, and feelings can feel uncomfortable or awkward at first, but over time, it strengthens relationships (both romantic partnerships and friendships). Clear communication helps both people feel respected and understood, regardless of age or relationship stage.

4. Prioritize Safety

Prioritizing safety is essential at any age. Authors Gail Cushman and Robert Mitchell of Loving Again: A Guide to Online Dating for Widows and Widowers emphasize the importance of taking precautions when meeting someone new. Your first date should be in a public place (not at your home), and it’s wise to avoid sharing your address until you've established trust. These small steps help ensure that dating remains a positive and secure experience.

5. Have Fun!

Dating doesn’t always have to lead to romance, and that’s okay! Sometimes dating leads to love; other times it leads to friendship, personal growth, or simply a good story. Gail and Robert remind us in their book that dating is an adventure, an opportunity to meet new people, and discover unexpected connections:

“This decision to date, online or the old-fashioned way, will open that door to a new life, a new love, or new freedom, and it will certainly not be boring!”

Originally printed in the January 2026 issue of Simply Local Magazine

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